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Question: I recently got engaged and I was supposed to get an award at a banquet. My fiance was to go with me, instead he was at a friend's house all day, and I couldn't get ahold of him...I haven't talked to him since a couple of days before the banquet he stood me up for, and I need to know what I do now. Do I ignore him? Do I tell him it's OK? Do I act mean, or do I forgive and forget? I don't want to end our relationship by any means, but I want him to know I'm very disappointed with him. Please help.

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Question: I have a friend whose girlfriend comes over to our house and is always asking how much did I pay for this and can she borrow that. Every conversation is about her and her probelms. How do you let someone know that it is rude to ask what something costs and that the world does not revolve around them?

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Question: The guy I am dating broke up with his girlfriend to be with me. Until they broke up, we were just friends. He was with her for a long time, and they lived together. They were only a few months into a one year lease when he moved out and started dating me. I know he is helping her with the rent. How much help should he offer her?

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Question:  My boyfriend and I have been dating for 4 years and all during our relationship we have had different problems, but whenever I feel uneasy or uncertain about something I can always go to him and talk to him about it. A couple of days ago we were talking about going to the fair together and he said that he could not go because he did not have any money, but on Friday and Saturday night he went to the fair anyway with some of his cousins.  Do you think that he told me this because he's ashamed of being with me, or do you think that he just wanted to hang out with the guys? Do you think that he really loves me and want to be with me?

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Question:  How often is too often for a mother-in-law to visit? My mother-in-law is a wonderful lady, but she has an unfortunate home situation and needs to get away. My husband and I have barely been married for a year & I would like us to be able to spend time together as a family (we have a baby). My husband wouldn't mind lots of company, which is a lot of housework & meal preparation for me. He has offered to help with both, but I'd still prefer very few visitors. I said her visits should be limited to no more than once every two months. Is this fair?

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Question:  A year ago I was arrested for telling a cop that he was obstructing traffic. The charge was disorderly conduct. I was handcuffed and put in a holding cell and somehow ended up with an appearance ticket. I was treated abrasively by the cop. I retained a lawyer, went to court and the charges were dismissed. My attorney is suing the city I live in with the following charges: Violation of my first, fourth, eighth and fourteenth amendment rights. This past September I was walking to the store with my ex-wife when I thought I recognized the cop that arrested me. As I walked past him I glanced at his name. He asked me what I was looking at and I told him his name. I went into the store and he appeared at my side and pressed himself up against me. I asked him if he wanted to get by and he said, 'no.' I asked him why he was pressing against me and he said, 'I'm not.' I asked him if he knew what assault was and he said, 'yes.' I figured he remembered me, so I asked him if he did remember me. He said, 'no.' He kept standing pressed against me for several minutes, then he turned and left the store. My attorney sent an investigator to my home to speak with myself and my ex-wife. He also went to the store to speak to the clerk who was a witness.  The clerk is not from this country and is easily intimidated by authority figures. The investigator told the clerk that he is an ex-cop and the clerk did not fully understand the prefix "ex." While the investigator was in my home, he phoned a police precinct and made plans to go out drinking with his friends on the police force. When he was done questioning the store clerk, he was outside socializing with the officers from the same precinct that I was arrested in. I phoned my attorney and told him it is unethical to have a cop so closely tied to the police force to be investigating a claim against a police officer. He replied, what's so unethical about it? So, I ask you. Is it unethical or does my attorney have no ethics? I await your response.

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Question: I'm 30-years-old and I like someone at work. I was in a relationship for many years. I am interested in a man at work, but don't know what to do.  What should I do. I have never asked a man out before. How can I tell if he is interested? Is it OK to ask a man out?

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Question:  Thanks for the answer about the mother-in-law visits. My only other comment is that when my mother-in-law has visited in the past she does help with the dishes, but as far as everything else goes... I always end up doing it.

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Question:  There is this guy that just started at my work. He is handsome, intelligent, funny, and he is the only one at work that is my age. We have so much in common, but I can't seem to get him to ask me on a date. I'm not ugly, and I have a great body. I can't figure it out. Co-workers have even said that he liked me. We are allowed inner-office relationships, so there shouldn't be any reason that he hasn't asked me yet. How can I get this guy to ask me out?

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Question:  My man has recently lied to me about looking at pictures of naked women on the computer. This is a big issue because of an agreement we made and a promise he made to me. He broke trust and a promise. I love him, but this really hurts. Should he be given a second chance? He did apologize and said he won't do it again, but I told him it will take a long time to regain trust. We have been together for over a year. What is your advice?

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