Question: I recently got engaged and I was supposed to get an award at a banquet. My fiance was to go with me, instead he was at a friend's house all day, and I couldn't get ahold of him...I haven't talked to him since a couple of days before the banquet he stood me up for, and I need to know what I do now. Do I ignore him? Do I tell him it's OK? Do I act mean, or do I forgive and forget? I don't want to end our relationship by any means, but I want him to know I'm very disappointed with him. Please help.
Question: I have a friend whose girlfriend comes over to our house and is always asking how much did I pay for this and can she borrow that. Every conversation is about her and her probelms. How do you let someone know that it is rude to ask what something costs and that the world does not revolve around them?
Question: The guy I am dating broke up with his girlfriend to be with me. Until they broke up, we were just friends. He was with her for a long time, and they lived together. They were only a few months into a one year lease when he moved out and started dating me. I know he is helping her with the rent. How much help should he offer her?
Question: My boyfriend and I have been dating for 4 years and all during our
relationship we have had different problems, but whenever I feel uneasy or
uncertain about something I can always go to him and talk to him about it.
A couple of days ago we were talking about going to the fair together
and he said that he could not go because he did not have any money, but on
Friday and Saturday night he went to the fair anyway with some of his cousins.
Do you think that he told me this because he's ashamed of being with me, or do you think that he just wanted to hang out with the guys? Do you think that he
really loves me and want to be with me?
Question: How often is too often for a mother-in-law to visit? My mother-in-law
is a wonderful lady, but she has an unfortunate home situation and needs to
get away. My husband and I have barely been married for a year & I would
like us to be able to spend time together as a family (we have a baby). My
husband wouldn't mind lots of company, which is a lot of housework & meal
preparation for me. He has offered to help with both, but I'd still prefer
very few visitors. I said her visits should be limited to no more than once
every two months. Is this fair?
Question: A year ago I was arrested for telling a cop that he was obstructing
traffic. The charge was disorderly conduct. I was handcuffed and put in a
holding cell and somehow ended up with an appearance ticket. I was treated
abrasively by the cop. I retained a lawyer, went to court and the charges
were dismissed. My attorney is suing the city I live in with the following
charges: Violation of my first, fourth, eighth and fourteenth amendment
This past September I was walking to the store with my ex-wife when I
thought I recognized the cop that arrested me. As I walked past him I
glanced at his name. He asked me what I was looking at and I told him his name. I went into the store and he appeared at my side and pressed himself up against me. I asked him if he wanted to get by and he said, 'no.' I asked him why he was
pressing against me and he said, 'I'm not.' I asked him if he knew what
assault was and he said, 'yes.' I figured he remembered me, so I asked him
if he did remember me. He said, 'no.' He kept standing pressed against me
for several minutes, then he turned and left the store.
My attorney sent an investigator to my home to speak with myself and my
ex-wife. He also went to the store to speak to the clerk who was a witness.
The clerk is not from this country and is easily intimidated by authority figures. The investigator told the clerk that he is an ex-cop and the clerk did not fully
understand the prefix "ex."
While the investigator was in my home, he phoned a police precinct and
made plans to go out drinking with his friends on the police force. When he
was done questioning the store clerk, he was outside socializing with the
officers from the same precinct that I was arrested in.
I phoned my attorney and told him it is unethical to have a cop so
closely tied to the police force to be investigating a claim against a police
officer. He replied, what's so unethical about it?
So, I ask you. Is it unethical or does my attorney have no ethics? I
await your response.
Question: I'm 30-years-old and I like someone at work. I was in a relationship for
many years. I am interested in a man at work, but don't know what to do.
What should I do. I have never asked a man out before. How can I tell if he
is interested? Is it OK to ask a man out?
Question: Thanks for the answer about the mother-in-law visits. My only other
comment is that when my mother-in-law has visited in the past she does help
with the dishes, but as far as everything else goes... I always end up doing
Question: There is this guy that just started at my work. He is handsome,
intelligent, funny, and he is the only one at work that is my age. We have
so much in common, but I can't seem to get him to ask me on a date. I'm not
ugly, and I have a great body. I can't figure it out. Co-workers have even
said that he liked me. We are allowed inner-office relationships, so there
shouldn't be any reason that he hasn't asked me yet. How can I get this guy
to ask me out?
Question: My man has recently lied to me about looking at pictures of naked women
on the computer. This is a big issue because of an agreement we made and a
promise he made to me. He broke trust and a promise. I love him, but this
really hurts. Should he be given a second chance? He did apologize and said
he won't do it again, but I told him it will take a long time to regain
trust. We have been together for over a year. What is your advice?
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